Thursday, August 11, 2011

What about me?


Somedays it's hard to believe that I am a mom....

It wasn't that long ago, when my Friday nights didn't involve doing piles of dishes and cleaning up toys, Friday nights meant going out for supper and socializing till the wee hours of the morning. Weekends weren't for cleaning or grocery shopping...they were for hair appointments, shopping and manicures. After 10 years of working in retail and pretty much being a shopaholic, I feel a bit deprived of the high you get from buying something new. Living on a mat. leave budget just doesn't quite leave room for frivolous spending. Back 'in the day' I wouldn't have thought twice about walking the long way around the mall on my way home, just to pick up a 'little something.' Nowadays...my son prefers to play with my nice 'little somethings'... 


Between being the maid, wife, boo boo kisser, laundromat, dishwasher, chef, and momma that everyone needs, there is barely a second to spare. But looking at these two handsome little misters I've been blessed with...ya...it's OK if I don't get to wear the latest clothes and the newest makeup colors. Going to bed at 10pm is much easier on the body then staying up drinking till 3am and wearing my yoga pants is sooo much more comfy then skinny jeans. I guess getting my hair cut every 3 months is perfectly acceptable and buying box dye is a heck of a lot cheaper!

it's OK that bear wears my necklaces & bracelets more then i do...

...and that there is a sucky in my 'going out' purse.
 But I still feel as though I haven't quite found the balance yet. The things I used to do for fun are rare, although I do get to paint my nails every now and then! And when I do get to do something extravagant for myself it's usually followed by guilt, because in order to do it, I sacrificed time playing on the floor with my kids or with my husband (but really, do married people with two young kids spend time together?!)...

You hear people talk about moms having to take care of themselves first, so that everyone else is happy and cared for. But how many moms actually do this? I sure as heck don't know any of them, in fact I think we are all struggling to find that perfect balance between ourselves and our 'jobs.' The 'to do' list is already long enough, so why add one more thing? Even if that one thing is for yourself...?

So I've made myself a promise. At least once a week I am going to do something just for me. It might be as simple as a bubble bath, or as extravagant as a haircut (I know! What a rebel I am!! haha)! Or maybe a date with my hubby...I know! Wow...that would be the day!

But I'm gonna try...

I'd love to hear how you treat yourself! Do you have a weekly spa ritual with friends? Date night with hubby? Or is a glass of wine the way you relax and take a second for yourself?

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3 comments:

egendreau said...

I give myself a pedicure one night a week. I do it myself b/c I simply can't afford anything else but I have some fun colors and seeing my pretty toes first thing in the morning always makes me feel pretty!

Lisa said...

This was really great to read b/c I think about it a lot with a baby coming any day now. I don't know how my life is going to change and if I'm going to have a hard time with it. I'm really going to try to dedicate myself to going to the gym during lunch or after work like I did before I got super pregnant. It was time just for ME and it made me feel good. I'm also hoping I can still get in some free time on weekends to do shopping. Like you, I'm a big shopper and I can't imagine not being able to go! That's what dads and the grandparents are for! You're not being selfish for thinking these things at all. We all need a break and need to have things in life that are fulfilling.

andie jaye said...

oh doll...your honesty and openness is so amazing. it's hard to be MOM sometimes, isn't it? my husband says alot that i'm the glue that keeps the house from falling apart--it sounds like that may be how you are too. don't forget to give yourself credit for all of the things you selflessly do without a second thought. and that precious smile on bubba's face? you put it there.